Growing up is hard on friendships. You have falling outs, you have those who you still talk to on a regular basis, and you have those who are still in your life no matter what. Growing up really shows you who your true friends are, in my opinion. And these days, I feel a lot of people are really good at faking it.
Moving around a lot when I was young, making and keeping friends was always hard for me. I was never the girl with several girlfriends. I had a lot of girls who were friendly, but only about one or two real true friends who knew me inside and out. Girls never really liked me much growing up. It was a lot harder for me to befriend a girl than it was to befriend a guy.
When I was young, I didn't care about not having that many girlfriends. With that said, it would've been nice to be accepted and wanted in a group of ladies, but having guy friends was good enough for me, they were less judgmental. Now that I am older, I long for girl time, for that quality time to be what I am.. a girl.
As we get older you would think girls would be more accepting of each other. In my experience, it's no different from when we are adolescents. Judgmental, catty, and just downright exhausting - that is what I've found in my adult years of trying to make friends. Maybe it's me.
Moving away from the two best friends I will always consider my best friends (those who are definitely going to be in my wedding one day) has been very hard. Sure they are just a phone call away, but that is what it is, a phone call. It's been hard to make and keep friends to spend time with on a daily basis.
I love having relationships with girls and living with two boys, I need it more than ever. But I've found that out here on the island, the friends I have made either aren't my friend anymore, or have/will be moving away. It definitely does not get any easier as we grow older.
I guess for this completely random, word vomit post, the point is, when you find those friends who are truly that, best friends, always remember to cherish that relationship. It's easy to let distance come between you and sometimes, if let go for too long, it becomes something that once was.
With all of this said, I'm very blessed to have made some of the friends I have through this little blog. But internet friends are a lot different than real life friends. And we all need real life friends.
Do you have a best friend you will cherish forever no matter what?